Stop Looking for a Husband: Find the Love of Your Life bucks the notion that a woman needs a husband to be happy. Ever think the reason the divorce rate is so high is because women have been, taught that life isn’t complete without a husband? We rush into marriage only to discover that it was never meant to be. Quick, find that man before you reach a certain age, and seal the deal. Make him commit or else! The truth is, a marriage will never work when its foundation is set on shaky ground.
Author Marina Sbrochi tells the modern, intelligent woman that she will only find real love when she gets the objective for marriage out of her head-a fundamental mind shift. Change your goal from finding a husband to finding the love of your life, and you’ll find happiness.
Women have been conditioned to search for the perfect man who will fulfill the dream of a white dress, a diamond, 2.5 kids, and a house in the ‘burbs. Nowhere in this fairy tale is there anything about falling in love with the one you can’t live without-and having fun doing it!
The honest, straightforward advice-and the often hilarious accounts-speak to anyone who has read all the “rules” and tricks, yet can’t seem to get off the starting line.
Stop Looking for a Husband will not only give the intelligent woman ideas for a new and enhanced approach to finding love but will also keep her in stitches with sage advice and true tales that can only happen in real life.
WHAT I THOUGHT
Thank goodness I am not out there looking for a husband is what I thought!
Looking specifically for a husband sounds like disappointment could become your new best friend. Marina Sbrochi’s book is about dropping that H word, not focussing on going out there to find yourself a husband but instead go out there to find someone you love and will love for life.
I think some women place too much emphasis on having a husband and the perfect marriage and they get lost along the way. If you go out to find yourself a husband I wonder what the chances of you still being together in 10 years are? It seems women have different checklists, if you like, with regard to husbands. Checklists might include good finance, good job, stability, good lineage and other things. Wrong reasons in my book to get involved with someone. If you do not have love, friendship and trust then it doesn’t matter how much money he has or makes, I’m guessing the marriage won’t last.
Another thing, some women seem to think without a husband they are not living their little girl dream, the one where the perfect family also exists. My advice, ladies, let go of this dream when you’re looking for a partner, don’t go out looking for that perfect husband, go out looking for someone who will be the love of your life – the husband thing will follow if it’s meant to be. In other words, don’t put the cart before the horse. Don’t settle with someone you think is good husband material, get married and then try and have a good relationship which includes love, friendship and trust. Find someone you like, someone you can see yourself growing to love, someone you will have fun with and who knows, he may turn out to be even better than what you dreamed of as a little girl.
If you are one of those women who is looking to be wed more than looking for that perfect fit then perhaps you should read Stop Looking for a Husband: Find the Love of Your Life, it may open your eyes a little and help you see perspective, you may also pick up some handy hints to help find the love of your life who may one day become your husband. I think if you switch the focus from having to find a husband to enjoying your life and being content within yourself you may be surprised by what kind of a man that will attract and who knows, it could be the one.
Stop Looking for a Husband: Find the Love of Your Life is a quick read, it’s laugh out loud funny in parts and offers some practical advice which I imagine would be useful, such as, be aware of how you present yourself, don’t give off vibes that you’re unapproachable, give off vibes that you are happy within yourself. I like that throughout the book there are case studies of real people and how they handled certain situations, they help keep the book real and also offer some laughs.
All in all, I’m lucky, I don’t need to worry about finding the love of my life, I was blessed to have found that man some time ago. I wasn’t looking for a husband, I wasn’t even looking – but that’s how things happen, love found me. Sometimes when you least expect it or when you are not trying too hard for something good things happen, the right things happen, destiny happens. Life is short, be with the one you love not the one you think you might be able to love.
Many thanks to Marina for providing me with a copy of her book – thanks, Marina!